My Father Lived Above my Expectations

My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard.  Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.”  “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply.  “We’re raising boys.”  ~ Harmon Killebrew

First off, thank you for compiling such an extensive collection of information on being a modern gentleman and successful person. I found your site last night from stumbleupon and it’s already my homepage. I’m twenty-two years old and I really appreciate all of the classic quotes, “what makes a gentleman” features, and motivation. Keep up the great work!

My name is Matthew Jones and here are 10 life lessons I’ve learned from my father.

1. He and my Mother never finished college (dropped out when my mother got pregnant with my oldest sister) There’s three of us, my two older sisters, Jacqueline and Allie and me, Matt.

2. My parents refused to put us in day-care. He used to work all day, get home, make dinner, and my mom would work all night as a bartender.

3. My parents put all of us through private grade school, high school, and college. He even paid for both of my sister’s weddings in the past 5 years.

4. Right now he and my Mom both work full time and babysit my niece and nephew 2-3 days per week.

5. He drives close to 40k miles per year for work.

6. He is self-employed and the ONLY employee of his company. His competitors are teams of people, but he has won awards and been called a legend in the industry. He is one of the very best at what he does. (He is a sales representative for after market automotive parts manufacturers.. think Chris Farley in the movie Tommy Boy, but good at his job and not fat).

7. Took all of us to church every week since we were born. Still goes to church, attends a weekly Bible study with my Mom, and is an usher for weekend mass.

8. He is the perfect example of the qualities your site advocates- My dad has taught me to be honest, proud, hard-working, and loving towards my family. I have never witnessed him act disrespectfully towards my Mom or my sisters and me.

9. He’s ALWAYS there for me when I need him and honestly my best friend. I hold doors open for old ladies because he taught me to. I give extra money back when the clerk gives me too much change because that’s what he would do. He’s full of great quotes like, “big ships turn slowly” (big changes take time) and “you only need to find one good one” (when I’m searching for a new job).

10. My dad has given everything he has and is to make sure that my Mom, sisters, and I never had to want for anything. We aren’t rich, but we certainly have more than we need, and he could have just as easily said no.

Keep the articles coming, there’s too few examples for guys to follow nowadays. Thanks!

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“My Father Lived Above my Expectations”
  • Thanks Alvin for this great guest article. Also, thank you for honoring your father to all of us who read All-Swagga.
    I have a dad a lot like yours. My father models a life of patience, deep love and service to others. His influence on me has been immeasurable. I am the man I am today because I live in his shadow and I wouldn’t have it any other way. For better or worse our fathers influence the men we become.
    However the number of strong, positive fathers seems to be declining at an alarming rate. I am amazed how many of my children’s friends have no father in their lives or other positive male role models. To be sure many children transcend this handicap to become caring, confident adults, but far too many are emotionally hobbled by this lack their entire adult lives.
    Thanks to you Alvin, our dads and All-Swagga too for continuing to set the bar high for manhood and reminding us of what the true measure of a man can be.

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