Alvin: Who are you, what do you do, and what do you enjoy most about it?
Stephan: My name is Stephan Labossiere and I am a relationship expert & coach. I conduct workshops, one on one coaching, as well as speaking engagements aimed to help others become better people and improve their relationships. I am also the author of the book How To Get A Married Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband. In addition to that I have a blog which provides insight and advice on relationships which you can find at www.StephanSpeaks.com. What I enjoy most about what I do is being able to impact the lives of so many people in a positive way. I know this is the purpose that GOD has set forth for me, and I take pride and enjoyment in fulfilling that purpose.
Alvin: Pick any man in the world, who would be most influential to you and why?
Stephan: Aside from Jesus, I would honestly have to say rapper Jay-Z. I don’t know about his personal views but he was a man whose music I listened to a lot growing up. Just seeing how he has taken his career to such great heights is something I respect. He also was a great musician to me, and was consistently good year in and year out. That level of excellence is what I strive to achieve in all I do. Again, Jesus is truly the biggest influence in my life but I do respect what Jay-Z has been able to accomplish in his career.
Alvin: What do you wish to accomplish 1 year from today?
Stephan: To just take my career to a higher level. I expect to have my second & third book out and published, with the first having become a bestseller. I also expect to be a very successful relationship expert and continue to help as many people as I can. My 1st book becoming a movie would be a nice touch as well.
Alvin: In your opinion what does it mean to be in a relationship today compared to 20-30 years ago?
Stephan: The first thing that comes to mind is that the roles of the man and woman were being implemented better. Not to say there weren’t plenty of relationship issues 20-30yrs ago but it’s different now. More men are falling short, and more women are taking the lead. This is having a negative effect on relationships as well as the need for both the man and woman to work. Both sides have to deal with the stresses of job which makes it harder for both sides to tend to the other.
Alvin: Share your story, what has been your largest step to manhood?
Stephan: For me the largest step has been when I took the time to get closer to GOD. It is that experience and the continuing process that has truly shaped me into the man I am today. I had to take more personal accountability of my actions and the way that I was looking at things. It helped me to understand women and just people in general much better. I have grown stronger and much more focused on the right things. Definitely the largest step and the most important step I have taken to manhood.
Alvin: What’s been the best advice you received about being a man?
Stephan: Simply to “step up”. I used to have a boss who was a tyrant. He would rip any and everyone to pieces. Literally made people scared and some would cry when he was done with them. I hated it (laughing) but he truly challenged me and pushed me in a way nobody had. I still remember an incident with an irate customer but long story short he said “you need to step up and be a man”. I will never forget that, and it was from that day I had a new approach to things.