5 Minute Interview: Lamar Tyler
Alvin: Who are you, what do you do, and what do you enjoy most about it?
Lamar: Husband, father, the guy behind BlackandMarriedWithKids.com and the host of The Gatekeepers Are Gone! I create content for my company Tyler New Media: blogs, online video, documentaries on DVD etc. What I enjoy the most about it is ability to come up with a concept or idea and having the ability to create it. I love the fact that using web based technologies has given me the ability to move away from my 9-5 and spend more time with my family while impacting my community.
Alvin: Pick any man in the world, who would be the most influential to you and why?
Lamar: My grandfather because he laid the foundation of what Manhood is for me. He was the person I was able to see firsthand and model myself after.
Alvin: What was your inspiration for creating the documentary film “Men ain’t Boys“?
Lamar: I think there is a severe misunderstanding when it comes to what Manhood is, especially in the African American community due to the absence of fathers in so many homes. Our children are being left to figure it out on their own and that’s dangerous. That’s when they turn to what they see in videos and pop culture to determine what real men look like. Because of this we decided to make a film that would serve as the blueprint for what Manhood really is. We traveled across the country to interview over 45 men to talk about how real men live and just as importantly how real men love.
Alvin: What are 3 key topics you feel men and fathers will continue to discuss even after they’ve watched the documentary?
1. What is the real definition of manhood?
2. Not just how do you say but more importantly how do you SHOW your wife and children that you love them?
3. What can you do to become a better man?
Alvin: What has been your largest step to manhood?
Lamar: Definitely becoming a husband and a father. It’s required growth in me and still requires continual growth to be the best person I can be for my family.
Alvin: What has been the best advice you received about being a man?
Lamar: That’s tough. I never had anyone sit me down and talk about manhood, I was able to observe others around me and figure it out. Thankfully the people around me were great examples otherwise things could have gone another way. That’s exactly why we made this film, for all of those young people that don’t have those same types of men around them.0