5 Minute Interview: Tanveer Naseer
Alvin: Who are you, what do you do, and what do you enjoy most about it?
Tanveer: My name is Tanveer Naseer and I’m a business coach and writer. What I enjoy about my work is being able to help business owners develop strategies to help their companies grow without losing sight of what makes them passionate about their business. I also enjoy writing for my blog at TanveerNaseer.com, sharing my insights on leadership and workplace interactions.
Alvin: In your opinion what does it mean to be a father today?
Tanveer: I think fathers today need to be a lot more hands-on and involved in their children’s lives and their up-bringing; that as fathers, we need to be present to serve as role models to help our children learn how to deal with the challenges of today and in the future.
Alvin: What are your favorite activities you enjoy most with your children?
Tanveer: I have to say my favourite activities are those that my children enjoy the most as I love watching the expressions of joy, delight and sense of wonder I see on their faces. It’s not so much what I get out of doing these activities as it is seeing what they experience from doing them that makes it so memorable.
Alvin: In your opinion what does it mean to be a man today?
Tanveer: For me, it means putting others ahead of yourself, whether it’s your children, your spouse, or anyone else who means a great deal to you. To do that means letting go of those notions of the square-jawed masculinity with the tough, gruff exterior. Of course, that doesn’t mean we need to swing the pendulum to the opposite extreme and becoming excessively emotional. Instead, I think it’s just a matter of men recognizing that you can show empathy to those around you without feeling like it’s a sign of weakness.
Alvin: Tell a story, name something that you’ve done or experienced that became your largest step to manhood?
Tanveer: I would say it was the moment my first daughter was born. Holding her in my arms for the very first time, I realized that my life wasn’t going to be about just my wife and me, but about how to do right by this child who has entered into our lives. We hear it a lot, but honestly having a child really does change your life and your perception of it; of what matters and what you should be doing with the time you have on this planet. Nothing grounds you more in becoming a man than knowing you are responsible for the care and well-being of another.
Alvin: What personal advice do you have for fathers and men navigating their way through fatherhood and manhood?
Tanveer: The one piece of advice I would share is to never underestimate the importance of being present for your children. Today, many of us are feeling the pressure from work because of the economy and it’s easy to neglect our family to deal with this increasing pressure. However, at the end of the day, what will matter the most in our lives is not how effective we were in our jobs, but how much we invested of ourselves in helping our children become the best people they can be.0