5 Minute Interview: Frederick Goodall
Alvin: Who are you, what do you do, and what do you enjoy most about it?
Frederick: My name is Frederick. I am a blogger, author, and photographer. I enjoy expressing myself creatively and helping other to explore their creativity. One thing I like about my work is that it allows me to meet new people. Every person is interesting in his or her own, unique way. I like discovering that uniqueness by sharing experiences.
Alvin: In your opinion what does it mean to be a father today?
Frederick: Being a dad means being fully involved with your kids. Many dads rely on their wives to handle all the details of their children lives, but when they do this, they miss out on bonding opportunities. Kids grow up so fast and you have to take advantage of every moment. I try to spend as much time with my kids as I can because I don’t want to have any regrets when they are adults. Something as simple as reading a book together makes a huge difference in a child’s life.
Alvin: What are your favorite activities you enjoy most with your children?
Frederick: I like to share new experiences with my kids – anything from hiking up a mountain to eating a meal from another culture. Children are so filled with wonder. It’s amazing to see the delight in their eyes when they experience something new.
Alvin: In your opinion what does it mean to be a man today?
Frederick: I believe that men should possess these seven traits: compassion, confidence, self-control, perseverance, humility, bravery, a desire to learn. Acquiring all of these traits takes time and dedication. But I think that our society would benefit greatly if our men strove to possess them.
Many boys are confused and have no idea what it takes to be a real man. I’ve written three articles on my blog, “Authentic Manhood,” “Murderer: A New Definition of Manhood,” and “Learning to Love” that address this issue.
Men were made to be bold, strong, leaders. However, our society has attempted to repress these traits. If you look at the way men are portrayed on TV, you’d think we were a bunch of irresponsible, befuddled, buffoons, who can only function with the help of a “smart” female partner, friend, or spouse.
I read an article in The Atlantic titled, “The End of Men.” The gist of it was that men were essentially responsible for the economic downturn and that their skills and attributes are no longer relevant in the new world order.
I’m not ignorant enough to believe that we’ve reached the point where there is gender equality or that women have wrestled power away from men. I’m fully aware of the privileges of being male.
With this awareness comes a responsibility to raise a new generation of men who are respectful, loving, and willing to contribute to society in a positive way.
Alvin: Tell a story, name something that you’ve done or experienced that became your largest step to manhood?
Frederick: I can’t think of any particular moment that affected my journey towards manhood. But there were many experiences and people along the way that shaped my current belief system. I must say that having a child forces you to grow up really fast. When my daughter was born, I knew that I had to be a strong male influence in her life. The greatest compliment that a father can get from his daughter is “I want to marry someone just like you.” That kind of pressure forces you to examine your life and look for ways to improve.
Alvin: What personal advice do you have for fathers and men navigating their way through fatherhood and manhood?
Frederick: Be present and heap lavish amounts of praise on your kids. The world is filled with negative influences and people who want to tear down your kids. You must be their safe oasis.0